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Sex is a Not a Christian Dirty Word

Strangely enough, the subject that caused me the most personal discomfort while preaching is sex.  Yes, talking about sex, the normal healthy expression of a married couple’s love for one other makes me squirm.  I admit it.  I felt like I was 10 years old again when I was going through passages that deal with sex.

I am in church, I just should not be talking about (drops to a whisper) S-E-X.

I don’t think I am alone with my discomfort on this issue.  I enjoy listening to Bible teaching by many other pastors from different denominations.  The funny thing is that they squirm too when covering marital relations.  Christians as a group are just flat out uncomfortable talking about sex.  We just don’t like the subject and try to avoid it as much as possible.  Despite the Bible verse, the picture below still just makes me downright uncomfortable.

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There is a problem with that line of thinking.  God created sex.  It is part of His specific design for marriage.  He made it necessary for man and woman to come together for the continuation of man.  If God was not comfortable with the idea, He would not have made it so essential to survival.  It is one of the few absolute necessities for mankind.

Sex was Created for Marriage

More than just the utility involved, the Bible also lays out God’s vision for sexual relationships in marriage.  Nothing about it is shameful or unholy.  It is much more than how babies are made.  It is a gift given from the Lord to man and wife to make them one in a very special and unique way.  It is the way these two children of God are to create a bond of privileged intimacy for them alone.  It also points to something so much greater.

In Corinthians, Paul takes us back to creation when he says that sexual intimacy results in two becoming one flesh in the marriage bed.  Consider that amazing truth.  Two separately created images of God become one.  They do so in a way that God Himself planned for the good of two of His children and their marriage.  Not only is it a physical oneness, but a spiritual one.  Paul warns the Corinthians about bonding themselves with those who are not their spouses.  What they consider temporary dalliances with prostitutes results in terrible spiritual results.  That alone is pretty mind boggling.  In marriage, that bonding takes place in the way that it was intended.  Two become one.

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We are the Bride of Christ

God also lays out a link between this same sexual intimacy and the relationship between Jesus and His church.  Jesus’ relationship is not sexual, but the picture of the relationship between the Lord and His church is of bridegroom and bride.  The feast that we will celebrate with Jesus when He returns to take us home is the Marriage Supper of the Lamb.

God has deliberately linked the unbelievable closeness and love of the marital relationship between a man and his wife with Jesus and the Church.

For us as physical beings, two becoming one flesh is a big part of that picture.  This physical reality points to the greater spiritual completion to come.  It is a glimpse of the amazing love and communion that Jesus will have with His church for all eternity.  It is a wonderful blessing from the Lord and something that we as a church should rejoice over.  God gave us sexual intimacy to direct us to what is to come with Jesus in full.  The immediate intimacy gives a hint to the greater relationship to come.

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Sin Warps God’s Intention for Sex

The world takes the intention of God to bond two into one in marriage and twists it.  Sin takes what is good, pure and intended to foster oneness in a marriage and turns it into something base and ugly.  In dating, messed up marriages and culture it ends up so warped the world’s carnal version looks nothing like the original.  It is sex of bondage, power, addiction and sometimes just filthy enslavement.  It is then broadcast into our lives through media at every opportunity.  It is no wonder that we have become confused about sex.  The world’s version is shameful and to be avoided.

Paul talks about the result of this alteration even being bonding the Holy Spirit and Jesus with a prostitute.

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Yuck!  Yes, this is bad.

The world’s version of sexual intimacy is not God’s and we are good to avoid it.  Flee from sexual immorality!

God’s Intentions are Still Good

When the church responds to this worldly picture of sex by snapping back to the opposite extreme it is missing out on God’s clear plan.  If we demonize all sex and related attraction:

“Bad, Bad, Bad! Sex is bad!  We can’t even talk about sex even if you are married.  Shameful!”

This is the message that some of God’s people send out.  Yet, God created sexual intimacy between husband and wife. He talks about it in the Bible quite a bit and in great detail.  Read the Song of Solomon for a clear example.  God created it a blessing.  Yet our response ranges from uncomfortable avoidance of the subject to fire and brimstone pronouncements of shamefulness.

It seems like we are letting the world and its sins dictate to the church rather than listening to God’s direction and following God’s intentions.

The world’s version of sex is not God’s, not even close.  We should indeed flee from sexual immorality.  But the point is God has a version.  Since it is God’s creation for man, it is good and holy and sanctified.  It is meant for His people and their good as He lays it out.

Since it is from God, it is a thing of joy that we should be grateful for and not ashamed of.

We will not know the truth about God’s plan for marital intimacy if we don’t talk about it, even in church and most importantly in families.  If we retreat from the truth than we rob His people of the benefit of His direction on something He created for their good.  This is just unfair to God’s people.  It also leaves them open to fill in the gaps of information from the world.  The world is only too happy to provide its twisted version of sex to even the youngest of our children.

So I still might be uncomfortable when talking about the sex-focused sections of Scripture.  Sex was a forbidden subject for me growing up and it is hard to shake years of shaming.  If I ever teach Song of Solomon, I will likely be bright red during the entire time.  But God intended marital intimacy between a husband and wife to be special and wonderful for us.  Something that creates a new oneness and makes a marriage better while also pointing to God.  We should embrace that gift as it was intended and try not to shy away from the subject when God puts it before us.

God talks about so we should too, regardless of what the world has done.


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